The real reason you self sabotage and how to stop for good
You can name the pattern. You've journalled on it, talked it through and read the books, and you still pull back the moment things start to go well. This is where you find out why, and then actually feel it move.
Get The Replay This isn't another mindset session.You know why you do it.
You can name the pattern.
You could explain it to a friend.
And you still do it anyway.
✦That's because the knowing has only ever been
The other 95% lives in your body, your nervous system and in cycles that were running in your family long before you arrived. No amount of thinking reaches it there.
This masterclass goes there.
If you're nodding, keep reading
- You re-read an email four times before you hit send, then open your sent folder to read it again
- You end messages with "I hope that's okay" or "no worries if not"
- You start sentences with "correct me if I'm wrong but..." when you know full well you're not wrong
- You get right to the edge of the thing you want, the launch, the conversation, the yes, and find a reason why it's not the right time
- You could explain your patterns better than your therapist could, and you're still back in them by Thursday
- You change the job, the relationship or the postcode, and the same thing is waiting on the other side
- You're the one everyone leans on, and you're carrying things that were never yours to carry
- You don't need it explained again. You want to feel it actually shift
- It's one step forward, ten steps back, and you're tired of starting again every Monday
Not the version you already know.
The one running underneath it.
The real reason you self sabotage
The part that lives in the body, the nervous system and in cycles that have nothing to do with how hard you're trying.
Why it's not a you problem
You've been working on it in the wrong place. Once you understand that, everything shifts. Not as a concept, as something you feel.
The three places it shows up
In your head, in your body, and in the cycles your family were running long before you arrived.
Then we actually move it
The second half is a live Beyond The Mind Reiki Infusion. You don't leave with more information in your head. You leave having felt something shift.
Ninety minutes. Three parts.
Find a quiet hour, get comfy with a blanket and press play whenever you're ready.
The Teaching
Why self sabotage keeps coming back, where it actually lives, and why understanding it has never been enough to stop it.
The Reiki Infusion
A group Beyond The Mind Reiki Infusion to release what came up in part one. No experience needed, just be open to receive.
What's Next
How to carry it forward, so the shift doesn't stay on the replay and starts showing up in your week.
Imagine if this was you.
- You say what you actually think, without rehearsing it for three days first or replaying it for three days after
- You set a boundary and feel solid in it, instead of wondering if you should have kept quiet to keep the peace
- You stop going round in your own head and take the step you've been circling for months
- You make a decision and trust it, without texting five people to check you got it right
- When it starts going well, the work, the relationship, the money, you let it stay good instead of finding a way to ruin it
- You put down what was never yours to carry
The knowing becomes something you live. Not just something you understand.
Who the fu*k am I to teach you this?
Fair question! I'm Charlotte Yates, Coach, Reiki Master and Energetic Medium. I spent years in therapy, coaching, journalling and reading every book going, and something still wasn't shifting.
I hid my sexuality for 12 years before I came out. I've been through the worst heartbreak of my life. I set the biggest boundary I've ever set, choosing not to go to my brother's wedding, and stepped away from a parent. And I built a business from scratch while working full time in the NHS.
None of that moved because I understood it. It moved when I worked with my body, my energy and my soul.
The women I work with tend to say the same things:
- She already knew. She just didn't trust it yet.
- She could see the pattern. She just couldn't feel it move.
- She'd done the work. Something still wasn't shifting.
What it feels like to work with me
Stop working on it in the wrong place.
Press play tonight
The Real Reason You Self Sabotage
- The full 90 minute masterclass replay
- The teaching on where self sabotage really lives
- A live Beyond The Mind Reiki Infusion
- Yours to keep and come back to
Before you press play
Do I need to have experienced Reiki before?
Not at all. The infusion is fully guided. Find somewhere comfortable, press play and be open to receive.
Does Reiki work through a replay?
Yes. Energy isn't limited by time or distance, which is why distance Reiki works. You'll receive it whenever you press play, wherever you are.
How long is it?
Approximately 90 minutes. You can watch it in one go or come back to the infusion on its own whenever you need it.
I've done loads of mindset work. Is this for me?
That's exactly who it's for. If you understand your patterns but they haven't moved, this goes to the places mindset work doesn't reach.
How do I get access?
Once you've paid, you'll get instant access to the replay inside MemberVault.
Still wondering? Email Charlotte@charlotteyates.co.uk or message me on Instagram.
It wasn't a mindset issue. It wasn't a discipline issue. It wasn't even a confidence issue.
It was a body issue, a nervous system issue and a generational issue. Once I started working there, the patterns I'd understood for years finally started to move.
I made this masterclass so you can feel that for yourself, without needing to understand it all first.
You understand it.
Now feel it shift.
Ninety minutes. £11.11. Yours today.
This masterclass is a spiritual, energetic and self-development experience. It is not medical treatment or therapy and isn't a replacement for psychological support or medical advice. It can sit alongside any clinical support you already have. If you're in crisis or need clinical support, please contact your GP or a qualified mental health professional.